The Secret Lives of Teen Girls What Your Mother Wouldn't

The Secret Lives of Teen Girls What Your Mother Wouldn't Talk about but Your Daughter Needs to Know         In The Secret Lives of Teen Girls Evelyn Resh the mother of a teenage daughter and a certified nurse midwife specializing in the treatment of teenage girls explores the mysterious world of female adolescent sexuality and how parents—especially mothers—can help their daughters through this tumultuous timeSecrets divulged by teenage girls during consultation have made Resh realize that with rare exception most adolescents are left to develop a sexual identity without any adult guidance and often without the most basic knowledge of what is happening to them physically and emotionally She also realized that many girls are freuently subject to criticism and shaming about their normal adolescent behavior Resh believes these issues are what underlie many of the problems teens face during this crucial step into becoming a fully developed adult woman capable of making good sound safe and independent decisions throughout life Through compelling frank and sometimes humorous stories from both Resh and her patients The Secret Lives of Teenage Girls explains to parents just want is going on with their teenage daughters during this essential phase of their development She discusses many of the complicated problems she’s seen in practice including not just sexual activity but also eating disorders substance abuse mental illness unplanned pregnancies violence and STDs She also looks at less serious but still troubling issues like under achievement battles with parents and lack of emotional and social support In this insightful book Resh provides parents with the tools to help their teen daughters negotiate the waters of their sexual development and emerge with their strength their sexuality and their self image intact


9 thoughts on “The Secret Lives of Teen Girls What Your Mother Wouldn't Talk about but Your Daughter Needs to Know

  1. Louise Richard Louise Richard says:

    I mean who can resist that title huh? Turns out it was a pretty good book gives insight into the hormonal roller coaster ride that is female adolescence and a perspective on emerging teenage sexuality that is far sighted and liberal She advocates sex education and lots of it rather than just trying to shut down or switch off the emerging sexuality of our teenagers because it's risky or dangerous Yes she proves with her statistics that it is risky and dangerous for teenagers to engage in sexual activity but she also presents the view that teenagers are hot wired to explore their sexuality and because it is hormonally driven it's hard to stop Let's face it sexuality is one of the major developments that separates young adults from children It's inevitable it will start to develop and it's natural that it does so This book argues that what the young teenage girl needs is education and information and a lot of it rather than the old world approach of locking her up in Rapunzel's tower which let's face it the prince and Rapunzel manage to find a way out of anyway What I really liked was her emphasis on the idea that a healthy attitude to sexuality in young women may very well start with how a mother addresses the emerging sexuality of her teenage daughters It's an important subject and one that deserves a lot of thought discussion and careful consideration


  2. Becky Becky says:

    Lots of great information from a smart mother


  3. Christopher Christopher says:

    My wife gave me this to read as I was stuck in the driveway with a sleeping child in the car Yes my daughter is all of 4 and a half and we are already reading up on teenagersshe's 4 going on 13I was deeply impressed with this book I'm not the target audience being a Dad not a Mom but I felt that it did help me challenge some of my irrational assumptions about teenagerhood that I've picked up from culture or had left over from my own scarring ride through HellThe best part by far is the discussion uestions at the end of each chapter I immediately wanted to discuss them with my wife to get our common front settled Favorite uestion What is your best case scenario for your daughter's sexual life in her teenage years? or something like that The flippant answer is of course None that's what TV teaches doofus dads to say The next flippant answer is I hope no other woman is ever able to live up to her in the eyes of any of her exes and much closer to what I truly want for my daughter But I'll settle for her enjoying her life herself her body and not getting hurt physically or emotionallyYeah dream on


  4. Leandra Vane Leandra Vane says:

    This is a stellar book well written and practical Resh goes after the tough uestions and answers them with compassion and tenacity worthy of such a far reaching matter in women’s sexuality This is a multi dimensional look at teen sexuality and how parent’s in particularly mother’s attitudes and behaviors play a role in their teen's sexual development This is a strong sexuality resource especially for mothers raising teen girls I readily recommend this book to mothers and women who are grappling with sexual issues rooted from adolescenceFor you can read the post I wrote about this book on my blog The Unlaced Librarian


  5. Santica Santica says:

    Evelyn Resh offers advice on how to maintain a balanced and close relationship with a teen daughter as well as how not to freak out about their expanding sexuality Evelyn is an experienced mid wife and gyn practitioner and has seen her share of girls in trouble because they don't know enough about their bodies or how to handle their hormone crazed feelings Some of her ideas seem too liberal ie letting your teen daughter's boyfriend spend the night? However she offers a lot of insightful information to avoid conflict with one's daughters and how to guide them into adulthood as sexually happy healthy independent women


  6. Sally Brooks Sally Brooks says:

    GREAT book Initially I thought it was only for moms of teen girls but it is a great book for all women Love the way the book shifts between practical information and antidotes from actual women from Resh's practiceI have met Evelyn Resh and heard her speak She is extremely compassionate and sensitive That combined with a wonderful sense of humor comes through in this book I highly recommend it


  7. Lori Lori says:

    Definitely worth reading Frank and relevant for today's parents I think this book would be helpful to mothers of boys as well Sexuality doesnt happen in a vacuum


  8. Delores Delores says:

    As another reviewer commented this book was informative but some of the author's opinions are very liberal


  9. Anat Lieberman Anat Lieberman says:

    This book is a must read for every parent who is raising a pre teen or teen girl


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